Question: How do Latter-day Saints understand the concept of love?

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Question: What does love mean in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints?

Introduction to Question

Many members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have been confused about the meaning of love from a Gospel point of view. This article seeks to outline principles of love that will affect the attitudes and behavior of the Saints towards commandments, their views about their identity, and so on.

Response to Question

Definition of Love

The scriptures of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints contain many mentions of love. In fact, there are over 700 occurrences of words like “love,” “loves,” “loved,” “loving,” “charity,” “charitably,” and “loving-kindness” in the entire canon. Readers are encouraged to either search out these words on the Gospel Library app or purchase concordances for the scriptures and explore each use.

After the author’s own review of the scriptures, the following definition of love can be derived:

Freely, rationally, generally unselfishly, and non-begrudgingly acting so as to recognize and respect the full personhood of humans and provide survival, telic flourishing, and happiness—both temporal and spiritual—to all creatures so that ultimately all exist in a relationship marked by unity of both heart and mind.

Let’s break down each part.

Freely

A person must act freely when entering a loving relationship. Love can neither be coerced nor determined. This necessitates that there exist some ability in humans for free action. The locus classicus for the Latter-day Saint belief in free action is found in 2 Nephi 2:27:

27 Wherefore, men are free according to the flesh; and call things are given them which are expedient unto man. And they are free to choose liberty and eternal life, through the great Mediator of all men, or to choose captivity and death, according to the captivity and power of the devil; for he

Rationally

It requires a rational enough mind to give the moral law content. A person who has significant enough mental impairments of any kind—while always of infinite, intrinsic worth—cannot construct if/then statements like are required for morality. They cannot think “if I do X to this person in this situation, then they will not be happy."

Generally Unselfishly

Love is an act that seeks the good of the other. It is not self-centered. As Restoration Scripture tells us, “charity...seeketh not her own” (Moroni 7:45). The Savior taught us that "[h]e that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it" (Matthew 16:26) and that we should love our neighbors and God with all we have (Matthew 22:34-30). However, love is also generally unselfish. It is important to love ourselves since, if we don’t, we won’t be able to love others. We can’t love others if we’re emaciated from hunger and thus too tired to help others. We can’t help others when facing crippling depression. Thus, we should love ourselves. King Benjamin taught us that "it is not requisite that a man run faster than he has strength" (Mosiah 4:27). We should seek to love ourselves not as an end in and of itself, but as a means to the end of loving others.

Non-Begrudgingly

We shouldn’t be hesitant with our love. Love should also not be given out of duty. If given out of duty, then it is not love. Moroni tells us that we shouldn’t give gifts grudgingly (Moroni 7:8). The Lord told the Saints that they should be equal in temporal things, "and this not grudgingly, otherwise the abundance of the manifestations of the Spirit shall be withheld" (Doctrine and Covenants 70:14).

Acting

As the late Baptist minister and professor of New Testament exegesis and theology at Fuller Theological Seminary George Ladd wrote in his seminal work on New Testament theology, on the New Testament's view "[l]ove is a matter of will and action." Love is not merely being. You can say that you love someone until you’re blue in the face but it doesn’t mean anything until you actually do something to show it. The Lord told us that “if ye love me, keep my commandments" (John 14:15). To really be loving, you have to do things.

This is a crucial point that many don’t understand. In protest to certain Church standards, people will often say that we should just “focus on the heart” and “not judge others” by certain standards. The point deemphasizes the fact that love is and always will be a principle of action and God reserves the right the judge people by how well they act in accordance with Church standards.

So as to Recognize and Respect the Full Personhood of Humans

Latter-day Saint theology holds that all human beings are of infinite, intrinsic worth (Doctrine and Covenants 18:10). This because humans are believed to be sons or daughters of Heavenly Parents and thus have a potential to become divinized (Doctrine and Covenants 132:19-20).

Humans should thus never be treated as mere means to an end. They are persons and should never be treated as anything less than a person. Such would dehumanize them.

And Provide Survival, Happiness, and Telic Flourishing to All Creatures.

It’s intuitive that our love should have particular effects. The effects are what we use to judge what is and isn’t valuable about love.

Among these effects, survival is a good effect. We feed the hungry, clothe the naked, administer to the relief of the sick (Mosiah 4:26).

Telic flourishing is also a good effect. A telos is a particular end or design that a thing has. The philosopher Aristotle posited that a thing flourishes when it acts or is used in accordance with its design. A basketball flourishes when it is bounced, passed, and shot through a hoop. One thing that Latter-day Saint theology explicitly indicates is part of our telos is that of being united maritally and sexually as husband and wife and procreating (Doctrine and Covenants 49:15-17). Thus, homosexual behavior and same-sex marriage cannot be part of the Latter-day Saint moral code. For more information on the Latter-day Saint position on marriage, see this page.

Another thing that is likely apart of the human telos for Latter-day Saints is joy (2 Nephi 2:25). We find our greatest joy in committed, loving relationships. This is part of why the Savior commands that we love. Joy comes as we survive, flourish according to our telos, and have other things helped. For instance, a person with bad eyesight is loved by helping them regain it. True enough that a person with poor eyesight can be happy, but there are times when providing eyesight back can make them more joyful. We all want joy. Love given in this way can bring it. There is also a difference between temporal joy and spiritual joy. Temporal joy is getting a cool treat at the store from your parents. Spiritual joy is more enduring and primarily comes when we are acting in accordance with the thing that will bring us the most lasting joy like cultivating an abiding, intimate relationship with God. Temporal joy isn't necessarily bad, it's just not as valuable as spiritual joy. This may be why we're commanded to be "spiritually minded" (Romans 8:6,7).

These effects should be brought to all creatures and not just humans. All creatures want to survive, to flourish according to their telos, and to be happy. Latter-day Saint scripture tells us that animals have spirits (Doctrine and Covenants 77:1-4). They also apparently have a telos. Doctrine and Covenants 59:16-19 explains this telos:

16 Verily I say, that inasmuch as ye do this, the fulness of the earth is yours, the beasts of the field and the fowls of the air, and that which climbeth upon the trees and walketh upon the earth;

17 Yea, and the herb, and the good things which come of the earth, whether for food or for raiment, or for houses, or for barns, or for orchards, or for gardens, or for vineyards;

18 Yea, all things which come of the earth, in the season thereof, are made for the benefit and the use of man, both to please the eye and to gladden the heart;

19 Yea, for food and for raiment, for taste and for smell, to strengthen the body and to enliven the soul.

However, verse 20 of the same section provides this injunction:

20 And it pleaseth God that he hath given all these things unto man; for unto this end were they made to be used, with judgment, not to excess, neither by extortion.

This same caution against the use of animals in excess is repeated in Doctrine and Covenants 49:21. Another revelation in the Doctrine and Covenants clarifies that the Lord ordained the use of animals for times of winter, cold, famine, and excess of hunger (Doctrine and Covenants 89:15).

So that Ultimately All Exist in a Relationship Marked by Unity of Both Heart and Mind

Love ultimately brings about unity: unity of purpose, unity in spirit. This unity should be a unity of both heart and mind.

Unity of heart is being 1) willing to continue providing for the needs of the person you are in a relationship with and 2) having trust that they feel the same for you. What should our universal purpose be as creatures? Love. Particularly, loving in the right way at the right time. By loving in the right way at the right time, we all grow into understanding of the principle of love.

Unity of mind is being agreed in and knowing all things including purpose, morality, science, and so forth. Unity of mind can thus happen now, but it can also grow further into the eternities.

At the very root of the Latter-day Saint heart is to create a relationship "of one heart and one mind" (Moses 7:18) with all of humanity. It is by this relationship that Latter-day Saints and indeed the entire human family can take on the very nature of God and become love personified (1 John 4:8).

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